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Stand Against Child Abuse



Child abuse is the type of abuse which tears children inside out. It takes them to places within their minds where children should never have to go. This page deals with abuse of the child directly. Kid's Home of Fear dealt with this, but in a more general way. On that page, I cover all types of ways a child lives in fear. Child abuse, and any type of abuse happening in the home makes our children suffer is the message there.

Here, I deal with the direct abuse of children. Those kids physically, emotionally, mentally, and sexually abused by their parents, other family members, or guardians who should be caring for them. This site exists to help victims, and to get everyone to understand their responsibility within their communities to stop this madness.

I lived this type of life, and I know the devastating impact it has on a child's heart and mind. You want to do all you can to please the abuser, but nothing is enough.

This page is here to get people to wake up to just how bad this problem has become, and to bring people face to face with this problem. On pages which will follow this one, I will continue to explore child abuse by offering stories and memorials of real victims. I am not going to sugar coat it at all here. I am going to express the views very directly. I am going to remind people that children die from child abuse. I am going to let people know that the victims who do survive have a lifetime of problems to get through to become a survivor. I am going to express the pain and struggle of trying to deal with scars of abuse while trying to get through each day.

At the bottom of this page you will see logos and banners of support for child abuse. There are many more I am sure. These are just a few which I have chosen to support. Click on the links button in the navigation section at the bottom of this page or the navigation bar at the top of the page to see more web sites which help children who are abused.

Children are killed by their parents, family members, and guardians. This is no revelation. We are exposed to these news stories on TV, papers, magazines, Internet, and radio. People may say, "Gee, something should be done about that. How can this be happening?" How many will actually report an incident which seems suspicious to them? Many, even in todays highly technical and educated age, just want to mind their own business and not get involved.

When people do not try to help or reach out to these kids who obviously look as though they are abused, they are saying that our children are not important. What future will our world have if our kids have to continue to experience these horrific abuses?

On this page and others which follow, I am not going to bore the visitor with statistics. I am not going to give a lot of information on what child abuse is or isn't. If people are not aware of this, they can click on the links below or on the links page and learn all about it. Here at Turmoil Leads to Hope, I am making Child Abuse personal. I am going to bring victims, families of victims, friends of victims, and helping individuals together. Here I am going share survivor stories, memorials of those victims lost as they are given to me by visitors, stories of kids dealing with abuse, and other stories dealing with those trying to help children who are being abused.

You will see a connection also to domestic violence here in some of the cases. I have said it be fore and will say it again, one of a child's parents is being abused and breaks free, the child usually becomes the next target. You will see this reflected in some of the stories and campaigns which will appear here.

I hope, after visiting, each of the pages on child abuse you will understand the role of every person living in a community to report child abuse. I want everyone to get involved and end this madness. The kids in all communities whether rich or poor deserve to live without fear. They deserve to enjoy their childhoods, and live in safe homes. We must take a stand against child abuse. We must report what we see and hear. We must make our children primary within our society. We must make our homes and communities safe for them to grow up. They are the future.

Further down this page you will find numbers to help you take action and report child abuse within your own state. You may also use the national numbers which are also listed in that section. These numbers can help you help the victims of child abuse by offering them options and ways to find safety from abuse.

This is serious stuff and many things will be dealt with here which you may find disturbing. Child abuse is disturbing and lives depend on what we do about it.

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Signs and Symptoms of Child Abuse

Although these signs do not necessarily indicate that a child has been abused, they may help adults recognize that something is wrong. The possibility of abuse should be investigated if a child shows a number of these symptoms, or any of them to a marked degree

Sexual Abuse
* Being overly affectionate or knowledgeable in a sexual way inappropriate to the child's age
* Medical problems such as chronic itching, pain in the genitals, venereal diseases
* Other extreme reactions, such as depression, self-mutilation, suicide attempts, running away, overdoses, anorexia
* Personality changes such as becoming insecure or clinging
* Regressing to younger behavior patterns such as thumb sucking or bringing out discarded cuddly toys
* Sudden loss of appetite or compulsive eating
* Being isolated or withdrawn
* Inability to concentrate
* Lack of trust or fear of someone they know well, such as not wanting to be alone with a babysitter or child minder
* Starting to wet again, day or night/nightmares
* Become worried about clothing being removed
* Suddenly drawing sexually explicit pictures
* Trying to be 'ultra-good' or perfect; overreacting to criticism

Physical Abuse
* Unexplained recurrent injuries or burns
* Improbable excuses or refusal to explain injuries
* Wearing clothes to cover injuries, even in hot weather
* Refusal to undress for gym
* Bald patches
* Chronic running away
* Fear of medical help or examination
* Self-destructive tendencies
* Aggression towards others
* Fear of physical contact - shrinking back if touched
* Admitting that they are punished, but the punishment is excessive (such as a child being beaten every night to 'make him study')
* Fear of suspected abuser being contacted

Emotional Abuse
* Physical, mental and emotional development lags
* Sudden speech disorders
* Continual self-depreciation ('I'm stupid, ugly, worthless, etc')
* Overreaction to mistakes
* Extreme fear of any new situation
* Inappropriate response to pain ('I deserve this')
* Neurotic behavior (rocking, hair twisting, self-mutilation)
* Extremes of passivity or aggression

Neglect
* Constant hunger
* Poor personal hygiene
* Constant tiredness
* Poor state of clothing
* Emaciation
* Untreated medical problems
* No social relationships
* Compulsive scavenging
* Destructive tendencies

Note: A child may be subjected to a combination of different kinds of abuse. It is also possible that a child may show no outward signs and hide what is happening from everyone. The information above came from Kid Scape. More helpful information is available at Childhelp. Click on the following link for national and state hot line numbers Child Abuse Hot-line Numbers

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Take a Stand and Save the Children

This page deals with basic information on recognizing child abuse, and then reporting it. This is in keeping with the basic foundation of Turmoil Leads to Hope, which is, to not just offer information, but to actively help victims of abuse. It is not enough to say we will help, but we must put these words into action for the sake of those in need.

Nothing changes, if nothing changes. We can't just look out our windows and wait for problems in our communities to solve themselves. We want safer communities and homes. To have this safety, we must work for it and take an active part in helping the victims of abuse.

Child abuse is hard, because children are left in situations which they have no choice, but to remain in while they grow up. They are in the care of their abusers. Fear and love keep the children quiet. We as adults within our communities must pay attention to the signs and be their voice.

The next page involves campaigns which I have started to help children being abused. Please, view the page and make a commitment to help kids. They are our future. Let's help them reach their future and not become another statistic of lives lost to Child Abuse.



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